Ah, siblings. One minute they love each other and the next minute they are at each other’s throats. It’s the nature of the sibling relationship. Just like with your marriage, you have to be purposeful in nurturing the sibling relationship or it will go to hell in a hand basket.
Siblings are our first friends. They are the people we practice social interactions and learn how to navigate friendships. Here in Autismland, Logan’s sibling will be expected to take care of his needs when both Michael and I have left this earth. I don’t want Maddie to feel like it’s a burden. I want her to be his best friend and do it so naturally that it’s second nature to her regardless of whether or not we are here.
Rebooting Sibling Relationships entails 30 days of discovering what each child likes and dislikes then seeing what they have in common. It’s purposely setting up activities for them to do together to learn and grow with each other. It’s learning each child’s love language then teaching each of them how to speak it with intent.
I’m not going to mislead you into thinking that after 30 days, your kids will automatically want to be together. I will say that after 30 days all of you will have a better understanding of the relationship and what needs improving as well as how to improve it. Children who get along make family life easier for everyone. Take the time to foster this relationship for everyone’s sake.