When it became apparent that he would need to start shaving on a more regular basis, I enlisted Michael’s help. For starters, I’ve never been a teenage boy. Also, I’ve never shaved my face. I vocalized what I perceived Logan’s sensory needs were to Michael as well as what I wanted the outcome to be. He listened patiently, as he always does, then gave me some options. Communication is crucial to this step. If you aren’t lucky enough to have a Michael in your house, then enlist the help of an adult male that your child is familiar with and trusts. Patience is crucial to this experience. If you don’t have anyone, then it’s doable by mom. If you’ve shaved your legs, then you can teach how to shave a face.
Make a visual schedule if necessary
If your child needs a list of steps to remember what to do when he is shaving then, by all means, make him one. The goal is to make him successful as well as independent. If a visual schedule accomplishes that, then do it. You can find already printed PECS on Amazon.
I only expect Logan to shave once per week. We decided the best day for this would be Saturday night after his shower for church. Does he need to shave more often? Absolutely. To make it successful for him, I have to lower my expectations. While Madison and I were gone recently for weeks over the summer, he didn’t shave at all. I am willing to acknowledge that it is a difficult task for him. He is willing to acknowledge that it is important to me. We meet in the middle on getting it accomplished. Such is the life of an autism family.