It is often said that a sports team, no matter the sport, must build and harness a family environment within the squad if it wants to be successful. It not as common to hear this reversed: to hear that a family can be made successful by working more as a team. But why is this the case? When a family can work in a team-like fashion each individual in that family will see a benefit. When difficult autism days come along, everyone works together like a cohesive unit because we believe we’re all in this together.
Do things together to build closeness
Sports teams must work as one if they want to be successful, and this means your family team must do this too. You must all work together on certain subjects and activities to show that it is a case of one for all rather than all for one. There are a plethora of ways you achieve this. It could be that you all sit down to eat a meal together. It could mean you all work together in building something, such as a tree house or put together a puzzle. Family game night is a great way to build positive episodic memories as a family. It could mean heading to a Christian retreat center that offers team building activities and options as well as taking family trips together. Whatever you do to build closeness within your family, make sure you do them and do them as one!
Establish a leader/captain
Every good team needs a captain to lead them, and your family team is no different. It’s important to establish a leader — which will be either you or your partner (basically, any adult) — within your family team because it gives the younger members somebody to look up to as well as take orders from. This will help them to be fully aware of what their role is in your team and who is in charge of deciding what they do. It will also help them to avoid getting the lines of leadership blurred as they grow older too.
This is especially true in homeschooling. There has to be someone who gets the final say and everyone is held accountable. Just like you can’t have a team without a captain, you can’t have a family without a leader. Decide who is going to be in charge and make sure everyone knows it. Of course, each member of your family can be involved in the group’s decision making. Having a focal point for these decisions is never a bad thing.
Make sure to celebrate
When sports teams win, they celebrate. When your family team wins at anything, you should celebrate too. This win could come in any form. It could come in your children acing a test. It could come in the form of you or your partner achieving a promotion.It could come in the form of you finishing a family task together. Whatever it is your family wins at, make sure to celebrate it by, say, going out for a meal. When you do so you instantly let all the members of your team know how much they are values and appreciated, and you also show your children that hard work pays off. Celebrate a family win with something special as a family. Remember that you are trying to build positive familial episodic memories.
Building a strong team within your family is instantly going to result in the creation of a happy home. Why? Because it will means everybody will be working towards the same goal: making the family happy. Everyone wants to belong to a group that loves and cherishes them. Having a strong family unit will help your marriage thrive and your children will know what it feels like to belong to something wonderful.