We are still working on transferring responsibility with Logan. This is easy to do with school and chores but a little harder to do with relationships. I’ll tell you the good and the problems. Life with autism is certainly never dull. Who else sits up at night trying to problem solve how to transfer responsibility to their kid ?
Logan is doing really well in the school and chores department. I thought of 3 developmentally appropriate chores for him to do. The developmentally appropriate part is key here. To be successful, we have to remain in his zone of proximal development. We can’t focus on his chronological age. It’s tough too especially when we get near other kids his age. We explained it to him and brainstormed ideas for punishment if he didn’t do it. He took to it like a fish to water. Let’s just say that if I knew he could keep a bathroom this clean then it would have been his chore a long time ago. He also is doing really well keeping up with the laundry. He can now get it all brought to the living room and sorted. He still needs some scaffolding to remember to keep the washer and dryer going but that is so age appropriate.
This year in school, we are working on him taking more responsibility for getting his work done. I saw another homeschool mom that makes a chart of whatever lessons need to be done for each day per week. Her kids look at the chart, pick the subject, get it ready for her then call her if needed. Since our ultimate goal is for Logan to “own his education”, it’s about time to give him the responsibility for getting it done. We are working on getting a dry erase board so that it would be easier to keep track of the lessons. This month, it is his responsibility to be sure that all of his reading gets done. I posted the list of books that needed to be read and he is responsible for getting the book reports to me by the end of the month. We did compromise when Thomas gave him the Eragon book. Logan really wanted to read it so I agreed that could be the book for the month. He was really excited about the book. I can’t wait to see the report!!! 🙂
Now, relationships. This one is hard for me. I can’t think of ways to work on it. I really am stumped. I can recognize that he needs work on this but I can’t work it out to help him. I’ve watched the videos on the OS but it just doesn’t apply to him. Working with an older child on RDI can be difficult sometimes. I am truly at a road block here. Thank God that we have a consult with our consultant on the 15th. I could use some insight. Anyone???