Our family is no different than other families in America. Two children means extra curricular activites to be done. Unfortunately, our difference is the types of activities. Logan has therapy appts along with extra stuff. Madison has to sit through the therapy appts. She has no choice in the matter. It’s only fair to her that Logan has to sit through her stuff too. It behooves me though to set him up for success. This is as much for Madison’s sake as it is for him.
We simply don’t allow either child to do as many activities as they want. Before an activity is added, we must first look at the schedule. I try to make it so that we have at least one day in between busy ones. This means an activity one day so the next day, we are mostly home. This gives us time to catch up on lessons and chores if we need to and to decompress if necessary as well. This eliminates many activities right off the bat. Church events and family commitments are automatically added to the calendar in marker. This makes them easier to spot when glancing at the calendar. Both children know that these are non negotiable items.
Each child has a bag that they are able to grab to bring with them. Madison’s bag is full of paper, markers, her iPod and her DS. She also has a book or two in there. She usually draws to be brutally honest. I don’t allow her to use her electronics at her leisure. I try to save them for later in the appointment when she has started to get antsy. Sort of a last minute resort.
Logan has books, books, and books. I swear that kid will stuff books into the bag until it bursts. I generally allow him to put 2 or 3 books in the bag depending on the length of the event. He also has his DS , his headphones and ear plugs in there as well. Like Madison, he is not allowed to play on his DS without permission. I will assess all of the sensory input going on in the room before I answer him. At her dance recital, I let him play on his DS for the entire time. One, he has to sit there for hours. Two, it is loud and sensory overload in that place. The only caveat is that he has to watch Madison when she dances. That’s just being a good big brother. For other appointments, he usually reads his book. There are books stashed in the truck just in case he gets into the super reading mode. You never know with that kid.