Honoring my husband may mean something different to me than it does to you. Remember with these posts that I am talking about where God is leading me! It may not be where God is leading you or anyone else. This is what I feel convicted about in my quiet time with God. Do not feel like I am judging you if you live your life differently. I can’t even keep track of my life let alone anyone else in order to pass judgment.
Honor. What do you think of when you read that word. I think of honoring God and the church. I think of putting my priorities in order like God first, family second, others third and myself last. Sound about right?
While listening to a sermon recently, a revelation came to me. By honoring my husband, I am honoring God. Now, I’m not talking about being a door mat. There is never a reason to stay in an abusive relationship. I’m talking about being obedient to God and putting my husband before others. Never before God. God always comes first. Here’s where I’m gonna open a can of worms. To me, this means that I have to do it even if he doesn’t do what he’s supposed to do. He is instructed to treat me like Christ treats the church. As a good friend once said to me, ” The Bible doesn’t say to be obedient and honor your husband as long as he upholds his portion.” Nope. True obedience means doing it because you feel that is what God is calling you to do regardless of what others are doing.
I’m talking about putting his needs and preferences before my own. Purposefully doing things that I know help him out or make his life easier. Putting him above homeschooling ‘ a social life and some church activities. Just because church is having an activity doesn’t mean that you have to attend. (Let me hear the collective gasp! )
For me, this means that I need to do chores and homeschool AFTER he goes to work. Before work is the time when we need to spend time with him. Dinner needs to be on the table at a decent hour so we can eat together as a family. Making sure that he has clean laundry. The tough part for me is to clear our calendars so our events happen with him or after he has left for work. I don’t need to fill our calendars. I need to be selective with the events that I commit us to. I need to check with him before I rsvp to something. I need to keep it to myself when I don’t agree with him then talk about it later. He should never wonder if I am in his corner. That should be a given.[Tweet “Honoring my husband means he never has to wonder if we are on the same team. #marriedwithautism”]
There is a time and a season for everything. Since our children are still at home, our season is training them. This is the time to stay at home in an effort to be sure we are instilling character and godly principles in them. This is the time to teach my daughter how to honor her husband as well as teach my son how to treat his wife. These are lessons that they will need to learn without fail if they are going to enjoy happy and godly marriages.
By honoring my husband, I feel that I am being obedient to God. In effect, when I honor my husband , I AM honoring God as well. If I can’t submit to my husband who I can see then how will I submit to God who I can’t see? Hear me well. I unequivocably trust that my husband love me as well as wants the best for me. Honoring him is a whole lot easier with that thought process. If I didn’t feel that way, I would still feel that God requires me to honor him. If marriage was easy, the divorce rate would be non existent.