I have had an epiphany lately. Amazing , I know. lol Anyway, when you have a child with autism , you feel like you spend every waking moment breathing autism. You research therapies and supplements. You ferry the child to all the various therapies. Then you work on those therapies at home. You cook special food and therapists traipse in and out of your home. You help out other moms that are newly diagnosed. You can probably see where this is going. If you let it, autism will consume you.
My epiphany came while trying to figure out while children’s church doesn’t work for Logan anymore. The only new factor is Madison. She joined him in children’s church in the fall. Apparently, when she is in there, she is all he can focus on. This isn’t her fault and she deserves time to play normally with other children. She doesn’t have autism. She didn’t ask for a brother with special needs anymore than we did. She needs time to be a typical child. She needs to recharge her batteries just like Michael and I do.
So , that’s my advise to everyone. If you have a child with autism that has siblings then be sure that they get time to be a kid. Poor Madison gets carted around to ot/pt and RDI. She has to deal with a brother who likes to pat her on the back like she is a puppy. She has to endure him making crazy helicopter noises with his mouth while he flicks the Pokemon in front of his face. She has to play that crazy game where she has to always be the baby. She has to help us make his special food, divvy up his meds and learn RDI along with us. She is only 6. This is not what a typical 6 yr old is expected to do.
You know what? It’s ok. Yes, I need to be sure that she gets time to be a crazy 6 yr old girl. It is just as much my job to try to keep her life normal as it is to make sure that I am doing all that I can for Logan. With that in mind, we decided to pull Logan out of children’s church rather than force it to work for him. He sits in the sanctuary with us and really enjoys it. Better yet, Madison gets to play with her friends. She isn’t responsible for Logan. She needs to forget about autism for that brief time and just be a kid.