Self care is important for all moms but especially autism moms. After all, how can we expect to take care of our children with autism when we let ourselves get run-down or burnt out? It’s important to dedicate a little time each day, or at the very least, each week to do something kind for yourself. If you aren’t sure how to get started, check out these self care for moms.
25 Self Care Tips For Moms
1. Call an old friend and catch up for a while!
Strengthening your connections with the people you love is a wonderful thing to do for yourself. Sometimes this means a quick text or a video call to see their face. Set up a code word with someone who cares that lets them know you’re overwhelmed so they can send a funny meme to make you laugh.
2 – Take a long, relaxing bath.
Toss in a fun bath bomb, pour a glass of your favorite wine and chill for a little while. This doesn’t happen often in Autismland but maybe once a year. It is relaxing though.
3 – Journal
Writing things down is good for the soul. Pull out a paper and pen (or open a blank document on your computer) and spend ten minutes pulling your thoughts out of your mind and into the world. I prefer a pretty journal to write in and it’s not always ten minutes. But try to jot something down every now and then.
4 – Try a new recipe.
If you like to cook, this can be a great way to take care of yourself. It’s actually the reason I get a Hello Fresh box once a month. We have found some delicious family favorites using those recipes. Cooking is my jam so this is a top way I take care of myself.
5 – Watch an episode of your favorite show.
Brainless tv helps me to recharge and reboot. I don’t have to think about anything and I’m not invested in what happens next. It gives my brain a rest and sometimes I just need that for however long I can get it. My guilty pleasure is The Walking Dead. I bought the series digitally so I can access it on all my electronic devices. Whenever a chance presents itself to take a break, I’m ready. What’s your guilty pleasure
6 – Revisit an old hobby.
What made you smile when you were younger? Did you love to roller skate or ride go-karts? Leap around on a trampoline? Embrace nostalgia and see which of your childhood favorites you can realistically pull off. Invite someone to join you or teach it to the kids.
7 – Take a nap.
Sleep is crucial to your mental and physical wellbeing. There’s no replacement for getting enough rest at night, but if you’re feeling a little tired, treating yourself to a quick snooze can be a perfect way to show yourself a little kindness. A power nap can be just what you need. Everything can be solved by eating or sleeping in Autismland.
8 – Say no to something.
If you feel like you’ve already got too many things on your plate, saying no can be one of the best things you can do for yourself. Don’t take on more than you can manage. Learn how – and when – to decline. No is a complete sentence. In autism, say no more than you say yes to outside commitments. If there is anything the shelter in place orders have taught us is that less is more.
9 – Stay away from screens.
Spend an evening away from your cell phone, computer or tablet. Play board games, watch a movie together, or just stay off social media for a period of time. I like to put the phone away on Sundays to give myself a mental break from the ever flowing river of information that can come at me all day every day.
10 – Paint your nails.
Swap out your current polish for something new at home or splurge a little and head to the nearest salon for a manicure. Paint everyone’s nails even the boys. 😉
11 – Listen to a song you love that brings back good memories.
If you’re feeling stressed, need a break, or simply want to elevate your mood, throw on a pair of headphones (or crank up the car radio) and turn on your favorite playlist. I have a stressed playlist on Alexa that I will play when I need to reset. A little bit of praise music, some 80’s tunes, and some Hamilton.
12 – Sip some wine.
Don’t go too crazy, but a glass or two of red wine (or beer, or gin and tonic, or your beverage of choice) once in a while won’t do too much damage! A Angry Orchard at dinner can totally chill me out for the evening.
13 – Eat something delicious.
It’s totally fine to treat yourself once in a while to something you love. If you’re feeling a little burnt out and could use a small pick-me-up, consider indulging – just a little bit! Pick up a bar of your favorite chocolate, block of cheese, or other indulgence of choice and dig in responsibly! I have a secret stash of chocolate in my coat closet I duck in there, grab a piece of chocolate, and take several deep breaths.
14 – Practice yoga.
Whether you attend a class at a local studio, follow along with a YouTube video or develop your own flow, yoga can be a great way to relax.
15 – Read a book.
Check out the latest bestsellers or pull an old favorite off of the shelf – either way, it shouldn’t be hard to get lost in the story! I have books scattered throughout my house that are in various forms of being read. If I get a minute or two in that room, I can read a page or two.
16 – Make yourself a drink.
Slow down for a few minutes and prepare yourself a perfect cup of coffee, tea, or whatever else you love. Pour it into your favorite mug and sip away! My children both enjoy coffee or tea so I can make this a daily habit. Everyone sits down with their drink and relaxes. Sometimes we talk and sometimes we do read a loud.
17 – Tackle something on your to-do list.
Find yourself with a few minutes of downtime? Do yourself a favor and take care of something that’s been lingering on your to-do list for ages. Alternately, knock out something from tomorrow’s to-do’s. Either way, getting something done will give you a sense of accomplishment.
18 – Tune into a podcast.
There are all kinds of motivational, inspirational and informational podcasts out there. Find one you love and make it a habit to listen when you can! A quick one great for homeschoolers is Cultivating Grace.
19 – Paint something.
Pick up a set of watercolors or paint and a canvas at your local art supply store and see what you can create! This is not me but I can see this working for my girl when she needs to take some downtime.
20 – Sit still for a few minutes.
When was the last time you had an opportunity to truly sit still, in silence, no distractions whatsoever? It can be incredibly relaxing. Carve out a few minutes for yourself and see how you feel after a quick quiet break. Completely still and quiet. I like to close my eyes too. Be careful not to turn it into a nap.
21 – Practice positive affirmations.
Our words hold an incredible amount of power – use them to your advantage! Lift yourself up with a few positive affirmations in the morning, before bed, or whenever you feel the need for a little personal pep talk. I like to write little notes on windows or mirrors with Scripture on them to remind me of many things. You could write whatever you want!
22 – Exercise!
Break a sweat and incorporate a little movement into your day for a self-care technique that’ll help more than just your mental state. Find a new class to try at your local fitness center, sign up for a trial membership at a rock climbing gym, or slip on your shoes and go for a jog around the block. Can’t get away? Play Just Dance and have fun.
23 – Sing something.
Whether you hop on stage and belt out your favorite song at karaoke night or hold your own personal sing-along in your car with the windows rolled up, singing can lift our spirits and improve our moods. Don’t sing well? Try it anyway
24 – Go somewhere new.
A change of scenery can be just what you need once in a while. Visit a new coffee shop, drive down a street you’ve never explored or grab dinner in the next town over for a mini adventure. Caveat is that you can’t do this with your child with autism with you. A change in route or schedule will cause a meltdown and that is not good for you or him.
25 – Get a massage.
If it’s been a while since you’ve had a massage, this can be the perfect way to embrace self-care. And it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg, either! Check Groupon for a discounted rate, or see if you can find a local massage school looking for volunteers for their students to practice on.
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