Family traditions are important especially when you have a child with autism. Why? It’s those traditions that will sustain you through the dark days of autism. It’s those traditions that build a sense of togetherness and team work that will keep you going when autism makes it tough. It’s those traditions that will build your family legacy despite autism. All of those things are important in the life of your family.
I did not realize how entrenched our traditions were in Logan’s psyche until the move to Arizona. He struggled with the newness of everything. He attempted to keep himself together but it was apparent to those of us who loved him most that he was not himself. The day after Halloween, I caught him coming in the front door from the courtyard holding a cup. As I casually inquired as to what he was doing, I realized he was upset. His voice trembled as he told me that although we had not gone trick or treating the night before, he had put candy out for the Great Pumpkin. My heart broke when the words came:
” I just wanted something to be the same as it has always been. I thought if I put it out there then he would come and life would be right again“.