If you would have told me years ago that Madison would help bring Logan to the point of recovery then I would have told you how crazy you were! I was so overwhelmed at the thought of having a new baby along with a child with autism that I cried a lot. Logan was so much work then as he was still non verbal. He was prone to meltdowns. We were still fighting the School Board about his education. Life was chaotic to say the least.
Then Madison arrived . Logan loved his little baby sister to death. Probably too much. We had to move her crib into our room to keep him out of it. He would “sing” to her, bring her toys, push her in her swing . She was his own personal McDonald’s toy. He couldn’t get enough of her.
The Lord also blessed us at this time with an amazing speech therapy pre- k . He had no choice but to talk after getting intensive speech therapy 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. He probably spoke just so we would leave him alone. Those drives from our house to the school are some of my favorite memories.
As Madison blossomed , so did Logan. He played with her toys and with us more. The best thing that we ever did, besides having Madison ,was when we made the decision that I should stay home with the children full time. It was a difficult decision to make but one that was sorely needed. Logan loved having his mom and sister available to him. I got to spend some great time just enjoying Madison. This allowed me to spend better time with Logan. I could use her toys when we played together meeting him at his developmental level easily.
As they have grown, they have become best friends. When Logan was gone to camp, Madison was lost. When one of them spends the night away, the other wants to call them. It is so heart warming to hear them playing and having fun together. Logan will watch Dr. Who just to have something to talk about with Madison.
Their relationship takes work on every one’s part, including Michael and I. We have to set up activities for them to do together. We have to make sure that Logan is able to be successful at them as well. We have to check in every now and then to be sure that Madison isn’t overcompensating for his deficits. She is so patient and kind with him. She wants him to be successful just as much as Michael and I do. She is his biggest cheerleader.
We also have the family rule that everyone treats everyone else with respect. We simply do not allow the children to be mean and hurtful to each other. I often see this in other children. I don’t get it. If you can’t treat your siblings with respect then why would you do it to strangers? What are some parents thinking?
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