Here’s what we have learned about Madison doing something with Logan. Already at the ripe old of 6 , almost 7, she has already learned how to compensate for Logan’s deficits. She does most of the work in a situation. This manifest in several ways.
When the activity starts to break down, she picks up the slack if she wants it to continue. What we need to do is to listen in and be ready to step in and scaffold it for Logan. We need to teach her to make him responsible for his end of the exchange but make it successful as well. She needs to give him the appropriate amount of time to make a decision. It’s not always fast for him but you can see he is thinking it out. So, I guess we need to teach her some patience. lol
What I learned this week with my consultant is to be close to the action and coach her as needed as well. I tried it this week when I needed Logan to do something for me. He was not listening so I repeated myself. As I did, I made eye contact with Madison who was about to answer me. I motioned for her not to answer and she didn’t . She watched as we finished the exchange. It was a great teaching moment for her in how to relate to him.
Another thing that I need to do is be sure that Logan sees the benefit of the activity that I want them to do together. If they are doing a puzzle , then I need to have some that he would be interested in like Star Wars. He has to see the payoff in the end, just like the rest of us.
It’s a work in progress over here. We are plodding along slowly. I try to remind myself that all the work now will repay huge dividends later. I really have great children who get along well with each other for the most part. God has certainly blessed me!